Always keep in mind how people read their email...
It really doesn't have to be that way. As I said before, I have met
many INTERESTING, INTELLIGENT and ATTRACTIVE woman online.
So, what is necessary to get your email read? What does a woman
see before she even reads your email?
Depending on the website you are using that would be: your screen-name or
email address, the subject line and maybe your main picture.
If your subject line is lame or your screen-name sounds boring, you might
want to fix that. The subject line is the first impression you leave.
You can keep it simple ("Looking for a date?" has worked for me)
as long as you don't use the default subject line of the dating site
or write something boring like "Hey there". A good subject line
goes a long way ...
Woman operate in a "fatal-flaw" mode, when they are scanning through their
email. In real life you might have 5 seconds to make a good first impression -
online you have less than two.
The next question I will discuss with you: what do you write in your emails so they
stand out? And how much time and effort will that take?
Before I give away the magic bullet solution to this, let me tell you a little
Gabriele D'Annunzio was a young journalist in the early 1880s in Rome and was
doing very well with the ladies. To quote from Robert Greene's book "The Art
of Seduction": D'Annunzio had mastered the art of flattery. He seemed to
know each woman's weakness [...] A woman's heart would flutter as he described
the effect she had on him. [...] The next day she would receive from him a
poem that seemed to have been written specifically for her. (In fact he wrote
dozens of very similar poems, slightly tailoring each one [...]).
Having spend countless hours writing lengthy emails to women on online dating
sites this had given me an interesting idea more than a year ago.
It turns out that once you have figured out what works, you can re-use the
"email template" over and over again. Like in every interaction, there are
patterns that are repeating over and over again. Once you know how to make
the interaction work out in your favor, you can repeat the same process.
If you can attract one attractive woman, you can attract others in the same way.
Why fix what is not broken?
The only thing to keep in mind is that you have to slightly customize your
Woman can smell a copy-and-paste email and are soooo not
impressed with being a part of somebody's carpet-bombing email campaign.
It's not what you write, it's HOW you write your first email...
Once I had figured out a few templates that worked - they demonstrate my humor, my intelligence, non-neediness and many other good things about me - it seemed I had broken the code.
I started dating interesting (and fairly good looking) woman I had met of the internet and some of my friends started asking me questions after they had met some of them.
After a while I confided to my two best friends how I did it - and at first they thought I'm kidding.
However, being sick of the bar-scene and after trying to get dates online they tried the system I had developed.
It took a little bit of help from me - I had developed an elaborate system of rules - they, too, had enjoyed the success I had. This was back in 2005.
Vladimir, a friend of mine, actually suggested that I should make this widely available, but I wasn't so sure about that.
What if it stops working if everybody were using my system?
However, he got me to do one thing: I wrote down all my rules in detail - in so much detail that even a computer could do it.
He made me work out my system to the T and make it "idiot proof".
And since I got tired of helping out all the guys that my friends in turn had told about "this amazing way to get chicks", I wrote a software that executes my system.
After some initial tests and helping out some of my close friends I improved it and made the software easy to use
Now you just look at the profile, push a button and then copy-and-paste the generated response into your first email.
While you wouldn't have to tell your date exactly how you worked your magic, I vividly remember the one time I did.
"That would never work on me. I would immediately notice that something is up", she said. I had just met this woman for the first time face-to-face a few hours ago in a cafe.
Because we had met online we were discussing the experience each of has had with online dating so far; now we were sitting on my couch with me explaining what I do for a living.
This part is never easy to explain as I had quit my day-job and now help men meet women through online dating.
Then we went over to my computer, looked up her profile on a popular online dating website, pushed a button and there it was: the first email I had sent her, the one that got her attention in the first place.
And it was ghostwritten by the software I had developed. Her jaw dropped when she recognized the email. Yet she was glad that things turned out the way they did and things worked out pretty well between us.
Wouldn't you like to be in my place?